When my mother died we agreed that Mike would continue living in the home for as long as he lived or was able. I've had the sole responsibility of taking care of him. I manage his money, pay his bills, take him to all doctor appointments, manage his medications and fill his med planners. I cook all his meals and clean and maintain his house (inside and out). I've never asked my older brother to do anything. I realize he has his hands full with his own kids and his wife's kids.
Well to make this brief. He has backed off one minute saying he will just sign over his share of the house to Mike. Then nothing happened. Then out of the blue we get a letter from a lawyer. Unfortunately the letter was sent to Mike's house and just scared him to death. He's scared his brother is going to force him out of his home. I've refused to sign anything that would allow the sale but I have learned that if any one of us wanted to force the sale we could.
I finally called my older brother and asked him why he hadn't told me he was going to a lawyer. I told him I felt blindsided and hurt. Which I do. By the time we ended our conversation (me in tears) he once again said he would sign over his share of the house to Mike. I did that a long time ago because I felt it was the right thing to do. I made a decision that my mother was not able to make because I wanted Mike to feel secure. So now I'll just wait and see what happens next.
I think we are getting closer to the day Mike will have to live with Ron and I. He's way too paranoid for an apartment. Too many strangers and his paranoia will shoot off the wall. I was just trying to delay the day he'd live with us for as long as I could.
On the bright side......I'm so blessed to have my daughter's support. They are both trying to step up and help us take care of Mike. They are trying to learn what to do so that eventually we can get away for a few days and they can take care of him in order to give us a break. We really need it.