Monday, May 4, 2015

Never Too Late

Ron and I will celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary this Thursday.  What a miracle that is on so many levels.  Of course the miracle that he has survived stage 4 Renal Cell Carsinoma for 6 years goes without saying.  But the fact that we found each other again after 34 years was a miracle in and of itself.  And the fact that I allowed myself to even contemplate the idea of dating again after being divorced so long was also a miracle.  

Never a day goes by that I don't look at him and marvel to myself how lucky I am to finally know what it is to be truly loved by someone.  I never think about time lost but just how grateful I am to have found love at all.  Age doesn't mean anything.  We are never too old or to set in our ways to experience love.  In fact I can't help but realize how different it is now as compared to my youth.  My expectations of love at 20 were so unrealistic.  I made my partner solely responsible for my happiness and that was so unfair to him and so self-centered of me.  Our lack of maturity doomed us from the beginning.

I found that parenting was easier as a solo act.  I could focus all my attention on my children.  It was also a good excuse to avoid other relationships.  But that all changed when my job as a parent no longer required my daily attention.  

It was amazing how much I had learned over time.  I took responsibility for my own happiness.  I was comfortable with myself and liked the person I had become.  I honestly had more to bring to a relationship at 60 than I had at 20.  Ron and I liked each other as much as we loved one another and friendship makes a relationship much more sustainable.

The greatest gift Ron and I started our relationship with is our shared past.  Having known each other since we were 6 years old gave us a place to start so in the beginning we spent so much time catching up.  We hadn't seen each other in 34 years but because of our history we had a comfortable place to start.  It isn't that we "feel" like we've known each other forever......we actually have!

So, here's to second chances at any's never too late to find love!  All it takes is an open heart!



Olga Hebert said...

Cheers to this!

Deb said...

Happy Anniversary! Love is lovely at any age. My brother-in-law remarried at age 85 after my sister passed, and he and his second wife just celebrated their 10th anniversary. They are so happy together. In many ways she's a better fit for him than my sister was.

Hooray that you have love in your life! Wonderful!

Hugs from Canada!