Tuesday, May 17, 2011

What's in a name?

Ron just finished his PET scan and we will get the results the day after we return from our trip to Virginia.  I'm praying we will get good news!

I've been in the process of changing my last name to my married name.  What an ordeal!  There is no easy way to accomplish this, no clearing house I can notify to let them make the change for everything.  

It is also a psychological adjustment.  I've had the same last name for 42 years and my identity is in that name.  If it had been my maiden name I might have considered keeping it but since it belongs to my ex-husband I didn't think it was appropriate to keep it now that I'm married to someone else. 

I kept my married name after the divorce because I wanted to have the same last name as my children.  Only one daughter chose not to change her name when she got married. 

My biggest concern is Social Security......I want to make sure they get the name change and nothing gets messed up.  Sounds like I don't have much faith in their system.....  Everyone wants a certified copy of the marriage license as well.  That's at a cost of $2.00 each.  What a hassle!  But it was worth it!

3 comments:

Arkansas Patti said...

That was the reason I kept my married name. It was too much hassle to change back.
Praying for good results for Ron.

Patrick said...

As as guy I admit that tradition is peculiar. Your name is your name.

Caregivingly Yours, Patrick

kenju said...

It is definitely a hassle, but I'd want to change mine too, if I were you.