Monday, February 6, 2012

Forgive & Forget

Well, if I ever doubted that my husband loves me (which I didn't) I really put him to the test over the weekend.  I was an absolute hacking, coughing, red nosed slug all weekend.  I finally got the energy to shower on Sunday and believe me I was in need.  In spite of my overall hag appearance this lovely man waited on me hand and foot.  He did the grocery shopping.  Looked after my brother and still managed to tell me I was pretty!  OMG Love IS Blind for sure! 

I cam back to work this morning but I'm not sure I will make it the whole day.  I'll just have to wait and see how it goes.

Mike is still doing well.  This improvement couldn't have come at a better time.   

Ron and I have been having an ongoing discussion on the subject of forgiveness.  Ron says that he forgives but doesn't forget.  A sentiment shared by a lot of people.  But the question is does that really constitute forgiveness?   We've had quite a discussion on the subject.  What are your thoughts?


6 comments:

NellJean said...

What if someone did something that left a big ugly scar on your cheek that you saw every time you looked in the mirror? You would forgive them for the incident, but would you look at the scar and say, "I don't remember WHO did this?"

oklhdan said...

I'm not sure if you have to literally forget. But hanging on to the resentment or bass feeling for someone who has wronged you is distructive to you and any future relationship. I think we don't want to forget out of fear of being vulnerable that someone may wrong you again.

oklhdan said...

I'm not sure if you have to literally forget. But hanging on to the resentment or bass feeling for someone who has wronged you is distructive to you and any future relationship. I think we don't want to forget out of fear of being vulnerable that someone may wrong you again.

oklhdan said...

I'm not sure if you have to literally forget. But hanging on to the resentment or bass feeling for someone who has wronged you is distructive to you and any future relationship. I think we don't want to forget out of fear of being vulnerable that someone may wrong you again.

Arkansas Patti said...

I found recently by letting go of a painful part of my life and totally forgiving the man involved that I was suddenly amazingly free. Wish I had done it many years ago.
Now if I remember, which I only did just now, there are no accusations attached. It was just an unfortunate event that I also had a part in. I forgave myelf also.

oklhdan said...

Patti...I think that is the biggest gift that you get from being able to forgive. (freedom) By not "forgetting" you are vulnerable to reliving hurts and disappointments over and over again. If it requires forgiving someone important in your life the only way to ever heal the relationship is to forgive and forget. Otherwise you will never be open to rebuilding trust again. A lot of people believe that if you forgive you are condoning what the person did. That is not true. You do not have to condone the act to forgive the person who committed it.